THE BRIDAL DIARIES - PART 1

So day after is my engagement. And the word 'engagement' does some weird thing to people. I can actually do a case study on the multiple reactions of people to that particular word. For starters when you get hitched and you start inviting people for your engagement , people by and large can be classified into 3 categories : 1)the supremely indifferent single friends who will look at you as though you have sprouted antlers just because you are not so single any more and make their derision quite quite clear. 2)the obscenely excited friends who will throw thousands of questions of what you will be wearing , which parlour you will be going and what hairstyle you will donning leaving you wondering why you don't share even 10% of their  excitement making you firmly believe that something is definitely wrong with you. 3)These ones are my favourite.They will quietly be happy for you knowing this is one landmark in your life but will sympathize with you for all the circus hoopla you are being put through because they know exactly how it would feel. So the all time favourite question people keep asking you "how do you feel?' How do I feel??? I ask myself. Apart from the main event of the engagement I have thousands of irrelevant things buzzing in my head like my beautician has not yet turned up to discuss stuff with me , what if I am left in a lurch on the engagement morning or that I have a tiny red stone in my jewellery which is not exactly matching with my dress and I am also mortified with the fact if people asking me to sing and dance on my engagement. No sir !!! it's bad enough to stand in the scrutiny of 150 odd people who will be judging you from head to toe without me tripping over my own dress during my engagement or exerting my vocal cords because they have never been used before. So I decide firmly. No I will concentrate on myself ad my fiance completely without having to worry about who will turn up or not turn up for the engagement. So I go to the parlour . people keep talking about some weird glow for a potential bride. Now I do not understand that word. Am i supposed to glow like a 1000 watt bulb like in case there is a powercut is my face supposed to shine and reflect light for other people to see me or should I have a halo around my head like Gautham Buddha. But atleast he was enlightened. I am from that. So here I am at the parlour and after discussing the various services they get to the job. Now this is an interesting fact which I have observed and a major tip to all my lady friends. just mention that it is your engagement and throw in a coy smileto the parlour girls or the tailor and see the effect it has. You are waited on hand and foot , and you can even ask for an extra something and you will be happily obliged for. You have  the right to turn into bridezilla and NOBODY will say anything. Make sure you do this AFTER discussing the prices or they will rob you of your last penny at the mention of engagement.So coming back to the 'glow' after she scrubs my face for an hour and a half , she gives me a hair spa. While washing my hair I squint at my nose and see that it is extra shiny. Is this the 'glow' they are talking about? But I can get that by walking in the sun for an hour and get a shiny nose without spending that whopping amount. Anyway with chaos going on I start slipping into what I call my 'Zen Mode'. Just not getting bothered by anything and feeling satisfied with little things may be the key to a happy engagement mood. Who knows with my zen mode I may even achieve a halo like Gautham Buddha on the day of my engagement.

ANGER !!!

 
Now this is one of the strangest emotions for me. Probably because every other emotion has its predictability and this does not. You don’t know how you would react or how you are supposed to react. Probably the most attractive route which would sound to you is escapism. Just get out of that place which is annoying you or snub the person royally who is annoying you. The sensible side within you wags her finger smiling indulgently at your belligerent side. Na-ah , that is not how you handle things. The crux of the matter is how do you deal with it? I mean if it is repeatedly the same source which is bothering you then give that person a big telling off. But it’s those uncomfortable feelings within you which you have to deal with. Sometimes I feel some kind of a physical activity would do a world of good. Like dancing your ass off. Or  I sometimes dreamily think of kick boxing , imagining the person’s face which you’re boxing. But we need to detox mentally because all said and done anger is toxic. Not good for your health. I feel that in such times this advice is universal , spend time with yourself , probably the only way to detox , because no other company better than your own. I believe in destiny , karma and a weird belief that things sort themselves out. Probably all the logical idiots will tell me dialogue and discussion are means to end any conflict. True. But sometimes we are not always fighting an Indo- pak war where the discussion over a conflict becomes more tedious and annoying than the supposed conflict itself. So at the end of the day I sit back with my chocolate bars and let go because a quote from one of my favourite books little women says ‘don’t let the sun go down with your anger’ and another quote from of my all time favourites ‘gone with the wind’ says “tomorrow is another day” . so I tell my fuming weary glaring soul…. Tomorrow is another day J